Thank you for this! It brings together a lot of things I love - emotional intelligence, humility, anti-racism, and working with my deep need to people-please and be seen as "a good person". I admit it - all too often, my flight/fight response has been triggered by being called out, or called racist, or even just the suggestion that I am unintentionally upholding white supremacy... but now that I have been doing the work (I recommend Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad) I look back on these moments from a very different perspective... I see that my white fragility and comfort were being threatened.

I am trying to listen when I am called out (or in), to breathe, to really hear the other person, and to see how I can improve from it - instead of letting the ego take over, or allowing my brain to tell me that I am under attack.